Remember That You Get to Choose

When you’re a little kid, most of your choices are made for you—what you wear, what you eat, where you go, what you do. As you get older, more and more choices become your own. While the freedom and independence you gain are certainly benefits to that whole “adulting” thing, they can also present challenges…

We All Have Our Own Struggles

The great Hannah Montana once sang a lyric that’s so simple yet so jam-packed with truth: Nobody’s perfect. We’re all flawed, and you’re likely never going to meet someone who has it completely together. Despite what Instagram might make you think, most people have at least a little bit of junk in their lives. Whether…

Just Like We Shouldn’t Slut-Shame, We Shouldn’t Virgin-Shame

Listen, I wasn’t in the “cool” circles when I was in high school, and everyone’s experiences are different, but when I was in high school less than 10 years ago, slut-shaming didn’t seem to be a thing anymore. Sure, even in my AP circles, there were rumors about if a couple had “taken it to…

The Christian Dating Cliche: Guard Your Heart

I call it a cliche, but it’s a rule to live by: Guard your heart. When I was 15 years old, I found myself heartbroken for the second time in a year. Out of nowhere, the guy I had been dating (who I thought was so different than my ex-boyfriend) dumped me. He said God…

Find Your Courage, and Keep It

I was never that girl who always had a boyfriend, and part of that is because I was never that girl who told guys how she felt. I was the girl who held it all in but told her friends and posted hopelessly romantic Taylor Swift lyrics on Tumblr, hoping he would notice even though…