Don’t Put People on Pedestals

I’ve had a tendency my entire life to put people—usually celebrities—on pedestals. Most notably, I did this with Taylor Swift as a teenager—and, to be honest, I still do. I still find myself making excuses or defending actions I probably wouldn’t agree with if it weren’t her doing it. I tend to do this with…

Just Like We Shouldn’t Slut-Shame, We Shouldn’t Virgin-Shame

Listen, I wasn’t in the “cool” circles when I was in high school, and everyone’s experiences are different, but when I was in high school less than 10 years ago, slut-shaming didn’t seem to be a thing anymore. Sure, even in my AP circles, there were rumors about if a couple had “taken it to…

You Don’t Know What Others Are Going Through: Be Kind

*Sigh.* So, I really wanted to like the new Netflix movie Sierra Burgess Is a Loser. It looked so endearing and starred Barb from Stranger Things and the loveable guy from To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before. By all accounts, it should have been amazing, but about halfway through the film, I had to…

Not Killing People with Kindness

Most of us have probably heard the expression “just kill them with kindness,” but I don’t really like that expression, mainly because of the word “kill.” I think I would prefer it to be something like “just show people love, no matter what.” It’s highly possible that I’m overthinking a small expression that’s probably simply…

Just Friends: Don’t Lead People On

I write the following words with conviction, as it’s something I’ve done. It’s something most of us have done. You’re young; you worry about feeling loved and attractive. Will anybody ever like me? you think. And then someone does—only it’s not whom you wanted. You let him down easy, or maybe you avoid letting him…